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March

I can’t believe we are in the month of March already! Does time go faster the older we get? I must say I am thrilled to see the first signs of spring out there. Daffodils, trees budding, even the cherry blossom trees are out which is early but here on the west coast we love our spring!

I am taking in all of Gods beauty and cherishing everything. Each and every day is a gift. February was a month of many celebrations, lots of parties, and so many enjoyments to be a part of but there also have been some sad times and my heart has been very heavy. We lost a dear mentor in Randy’s and my life. Alice and her husband Donald were an amazing Godly couple that impacted us as a young couple starting out in married life. Alice lived a long and amazing life and her memorial was one of celebration as she died at 98. This to me is the way life should be lived; long and full and accomplishing so many things. She was an incredible lady and as I came home from her memorial all I could think about is I want to live longer so that I can do so many more things however we have no guarantees do we? On the other side of that, Randy lost one of his childhood friends at 55 which is so tragic. I also found out that one of my cancer friends lost her battle to cancer, she was also 55. This is unfair and tragic! It’s been hard  for me… every time one of my fellow cancer friends loses their battle to this horrible disease it once again hits too close to home and fills me with fear and anxiety about my own life. Unfortunately there are no guarantees in this life. None of us know what lies ahead for us or how many days we have on this earth.

I have been at this place this past month or so of looking at life through a different lens, so to speak. I listen to people complain about their jobs, spouses, kids, lack of money, weight, hair, aging, the economy, the weather, and on and on. There are some things we can change in many ways but it saddens me. When you have been hit with cancer, or any other life-altering event has occurred in your life, you see life differently. Those things in life that stress us out are not as important. Those of us who are fighting against anything in our own body tend not to worry about the things in life that are not that important. We just want to live, survive and see one more day, one more sunset, one more season.

I would never wish my cancer on anyone. The journey of countless tests, surgeries, chemo, radiation, hair loss, body changes, ostomy bag, etc., but what I can say is that through this journey I have learnt countless things that I wouldn’t trade for anything. I realize that life is short and precious and that we need to take time out of our busy hectic lives and see what is important. I feel like an old soul... I have learnt in my 50s what seniors learn, which is to live each and every day that we are given to the fullest with no regrets as we don’t know what tomorrow will bring. There are really just two things we need to think about in this life. One is our faith... if we don’t have a faith we don’t know where we are going when we leave this place. I want to make sure that whatever time I have here on this earth is to let people know that there is much more to this life and that is our eternal life. The second thing is about relationships… we are here to build relationships with people and take time for each other. Don’t get caught up in the busyness of life and miss out on so many opportunities to love on people and invest in the ones around us that we love.

We went to Randy's childhood friend's memorial service last week and I was in awe of the body of Christ. Our friend was a lonely man and had very little in this life but he had a church and a bible study group of people that took him in and loved and accepted him and supported him in countless ways. I was once again reminded of the many blessings of belonging to a church. I wonder how people get through life without a faith. I was humbled to learn that Randy’s lifelong friend had asked his bible study group, who I didn’t know, to pray for me. It blows my mind to think of the many people that are strangers to me whom have prayed for me so many times these past five years. If you are one of them, thank you!! What a blessing!!

When life is getting you down, try to look at all the good in your life and count your blessings. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel. We all have so much to be thankful for.